Niteflirt Chat Etiquette: Tips for Clients

Having worked on Niteflirt for 8 years now, I’ve seen the introduction of various new features on the site, notably Goodie Bags (which I love) and chat (which I have mixed feelings about).

I am writing this post to give clients perspective on the pros and cons of chat from the POV of a Flirt. I do not presume to speak for all Flirts, but it will give you some insight to how the features works (or doesn’t work) for me.

Chat Pros:

• Provides an alternative to a phone call when a client cannot call.

• Provides a low pressure alternative to calling, especially if a client is new to Niteflirt, or new to working with me.

• Offers some compensation for non-phone communication, as opposed to mail. (It takes time to read written communication, and time is money).

Chat Cons:

• Flirts are only paid for responding to the most recent message received. This sometimes leads to a client sending a huge volume of messages, with the flirt only getting paid to read one of them. I personally believe that clients should be charged per message sent, in order to curtail “spamming” of this nature. The downside of this is sometimes it forces me to cut my responses short in order to “keep up” with a fast typer, or else I barely get paid for chatting.

• There is no character limit on the messages that can be sent. This is a problem with cut and paste spammers who get off on writing super long descriptions of their fantasies and sending them out to dozens of Flirts under the pretense of inquiring about a call. Guys- don’t do this, unless you want to piss off every Flirt on the site.

• Clients are not charged for sending photos. This can lead to flirts being inundated with unwanted graphic sexual images.

• Unlike calls, Flirts are unable to set their preferred rate for chat.

• Chat requires a lot of time and focus for Flirts to be properly compensated under the current structure, time that could be better spent on a call, working on goodies, and so forth. I can’t afford to give my undivided attention to a chat session the same way I would with a call, it’s simply not worth it. Unfortunately, some people attempt to abuse the chat function in order to get cheap or free attention when they don’t want to pay for a call.

As you can see, the cons of chat heavily outweigh the pros from the Flirt side of things, and there are ways I would like to see the platform restructured (though again, this is all strictly my point of view). I personally prefer to reserve the chat feature for casual check ins, scheduling calls, and so forth- for me it cannot replace the the intimate experience of a live call.

In cases where a client does want to spend a long time chatting, or send photos, I request tributes. This is not “findom,” it shows me that a client actually values my time and energy. Here are some of my suggested guidelines for using chat as a client and keeping your Flirt happy:

• Ask consent before sending a sexually graphic pic, or dick pic if you don’t already have agreement about photos with your Flirt. If the Flirt consents to receiving this content, send a $5-$10 tribute with the pic. (Remember that most women- not just Flirts- have received unwanted dick pictures at one point or another, so it can be a touchy subject for us).

• If a client wants to have a long, leisurely chat with my undivided attention, I request a tribute of $25. With this tribute in place, I am able to relax and respond in a more thoughtful way without worrying about being properly compensated for my time. I find this works very well for separating clients who are serious about using chat as a legitimate alternative to phone calls from spammers and time wasters.

• Wait for the Flirt to respond to your message before sending another message. That way we don’t feel like we’re racing against you in order to be paid for our time and effort.

• Keep each message to 2-3 sentences max. Nobody wants to read a novel!

• Don’t spam dozens of flirts with identical cut & paste content- we want to feel like you actually care about connecting with us personally.

• If you want an in-depth roleplay or a lot of attention, CALL. Chatting cannot replace the intimacy of a live call!

Allow me to be blunt: if you are trying to game the chat system to get a lot of attention for cheap or free, we can tell. You will find that bad behavior will lead to you being blocked, or ignored in order to prioritize clients who are respectful. Is that really want you want out of your experience on Niteflirt?

Much love,

Goddess Eriko

My PSO Story

I get asked a lot about how I got into working as a PSO, both by clients and friends. (I also have a lot of people ask me to help them get into the biz, but that’s another story for another time). In case you are wondering, yes, Niteflirt is how I make a living. I also make and sell artwork under a different name, but phone sex is where the majority of my income comes from. It’s a wonderful job that allows me to meet many different kinds of people, offers me flexible hours, and allows me to work from anywhere (which is amazing because travel is my favorite hobby!) The best part is I get paid to talk about sex, which is something I love to do anyway!

I started out by working for an agency when I was eighteen years old. It was a good way to make money as a college student, but to be honest, I hated working for this particular agency (who will remain anonymous). They charged my clients as much as $5 a minute, while paying me less than minimum wage. They made me lie to the clients and say that I was calling a party line for free, and I was never allowed to admit that I was a PSO. My phone was connected to hundreds of lines, and I rarely spoke the the same person twice, let alone had any opportunities to build relationships with regulars. Every time the phone rang, a voice would tell me what type of call it was (Latina, Asian, Ebony, BD/SM, Smoking, Hairy Woman, etc. etc. etc.), so I was pretending to be dozens of different girls everyday! It was sort of stressful having to make up a new character every single time instead of getting to be myself (which I do now). 

I quit the agency after a year, after becoming fed up with the exploitative ways they treated their employees. I took a break from phone sex for a while, but found myself missing it. I loved talking to clients about their fantasies. A friend told me about Niteflirt. I wasn’t sure at first if I would make enough money as an independent PSO, since it was up to me to create my own profiles and so forth rather than simply having calls routed to me. I was surprised when I realized I could make more money in one day on Niteflirt than I’d make in a month at the agency. (Wish I was joking- the agency was really that bad.) The Niteflirt platform is a great fit for me, and six years later, I haven’t looked back since. 

It's wonderful having the power to control my image, rates, and marketing, as well as the opportunity to develop deeply satisfying relationships with my clients. I’ve continued to grow my business over the years by offering custom recordings, photo sets, and other content, as well as gaining a social media presence through my Twitter & this blog. It’s been great getting to share more about me and my life with clients, as well as getting to know them better as well! 

Another fun fact about my career as a PSO: I have a Master’s degree and have held down some prestigious jobs while doing this work. At some point I just realized that it paid better and I liked it more than anything else I could be doing. I think at the end of the day I'm a creative person and social butterfly and this is the best fit for my personality on so many levels. 

So that’s pretty much my PSO story. Would love to hear about what first brought you to Niteflirt the next time we chat!