Less Hustle, More Flow: Career Advice for PSOs & Everyone Else.

First of all: HAPPY NEW YEAR!

This blog post is a little bit different than what I usually post. It’s written for other flirts, as well as clients. And it’s less about sex and more about magic, and how to apply magic to working smarter!

There are a lot of self proclaimed experts in the field of sex work marketing their services right now. While I have provided consulting to new flirts upon request, I do not personally believe that career advice is a one size fits all matter. I’ve become very successful breaking a lot of the so-called “rules” for phone sex success. For example: I’ve never kept a schedule, because time is a socially constructed illusion (just kidding…sorta). The truth is, I’m a free spirit and I quit a successful 9-5 career because I hated keeping a schedule, so why would I force myself to have one now that I run my own business?

I’ve actually deliberate steered clear of other people’s “advice,” because I’ve always found, in all the jobs I’ve had, that I am most successful if I ignore the rules and follow my gut. A lot of so-called advice is actually opinions or personal anecdotes. As they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. The one exception is when clients give me feedback. I used to not send out mass mailings because I thought they might be a turn-off for clients, until a client told me he WANTED to be notified of when I released new MP3s. The fact is that many client do ignore mass mails, but at the end of the daily, I decided that sending out occasional, well-constructed mails was actually integral to my success, even if it turned off a few people here and there. In this industry it’s expected that you send out marketing mails as a successful provider.

For this reason, the advice I give others is generally to trust your instincts and figure out a path that works for YOU rather than trying to follow someone else’s recipe for success. But there is one bit of advice I hear floating around quite a bit that I actually think has the potential to harm your career by causing rapid burnout. That advice is “hustle harder.”

Recently a meme popped up on my Twitter timeline that said “HOW DO YOU EXPECT TO GET RICH IF YOU SLEEP NINE HOURS EVERY NIGHT” and I laughed out loud, because I generally sleep 9 hours nightly, plus a nap if I need it. The idea that I should sleep less or not take time for myself is completely counter-intuitive, as far as I am concerned. Well rested Goddess= happy, productive Goddess. I need plenty of rest in order to have the focus to offer intense calls that often involve a lot of mental gymastics or deep hypnotic programming. I need time to rest and dream in order to access my creative flow, do my spiritual work, and realize my personal vision.

If I followed other people’s advice I could try to predict “what clients want” based on a spreadsheet. Or I can channel insight from the Red Goddess herself. Guess what content actually sells best? The MP3s that I was EXCITED and INSPIRED to make. Clients notice when the passion is present. I am more successful putting more time and love into a smaller amount of high quality content than constantly cranking out more, more, more when I don’t feel excited about what I am creating. Pushing too hard leads to burnout and boredom, which is not sexy, and not conducive to career success.

Capitalism is a helluva drug, y’all. But there is more to life than spending every waking minute chasing dollars. You can’t take money to the grave, and phone sex is about sensuality, pleasure, playfulness, fun, and in my case- spiritual transformation for both me and my slaves. The money just happens to be an enjoyable result of doing what I am passionate about for a living. I do this work because I am a creative person who lives within the moment, not a slave to schedules and spreadsheets!

All this said, what works for me won’t work for everyone. Nevertheless, I do think that it’s important to think about working smarter, not harder. I realize this flies in the face of everything we’ve been taught under capitalism. I remember the first time my person trainer explained the concept of HIIT to me- High Intensity Interval Training. With HIIT, you alternate spurts of maximum effort exertion with longer periods of lower intensity recovery. Your workout is over in 20 minutes. And you get more benefit from working out this way than slogging away for an hour straight. I didn’t want to believe it was possible. It seemed too easy to be effective — even though there was science to back it up. I resisted HIIT initially, almost as if I believed that exercise SHOULD be tedious in order to be effective (and I don’t!) The same principle applies to work. Of course it is necessary to exert a sincere effort to get results, but the truth is, if you are in alignment with your personal flow, it won’t feel tedious. It will feel exhilarating. And a small amount of really focused, intentional high quality effort will have a much better payoff than hours of drudgery. You should never be working harder than you need to be, unless you really get off on being bored and miserable, in which case I recommend re-assessing your outlook on life.

Continuing the exercise analogy- if I never get off the couch, I won’t get fitness gains. But I’ll get more gains for 20 minutes of HIIT four times a week than an hour of repetitive cardio daily. And I’ll also be more excited to work out if I know I can knock it off my to-do list in twenty minutes, and if I see more tangible results more quickly. And then I can spend that extra 40 minutes having sex, meditating, or taking a nap! AAAAAND- here’s the real kicker- I’ll actually get better results if I don’t do HIIT every day, because my body can’t build muscle without rest and gentler recovery days.

I’ve noticed an interesting pattern- if I try to force myself to work when I’m exhausted, I don’t get calls. There’s no rhyme or reason to it, but it’s true. I end up going to bed tired AND frustrated, when I could have just gone to bed! But if I’m in a good mood and energized, the phone rings off the hook. Pushing against the tide is being out of alignment. If you follow the natural flow of energy, do what you enjoy instead of what you think others want from you, and allow yourself to rest when you feel tired, amazing things will happen. Believe it.

Dark Blessings,

Goddess Eriko

The Fine Art of Bitchcraft

Remember when Christine O'Donnell said she's not a witch? Well, I am. 

My name is Eriko Tanaka, and I am a witch. 

Don't be afraid! Actually, wait, do be afraid. I am capable of working very powerful spells, and in fact, clients have paid me to do so. Nothing further enforces deep hypnotic enslavement programming like a love or domination spell for good measure. Be careful what you wish for, however...Once the spell is cast, that desire to submit to me quickly turns into an all-consuming obsession. 

I'll let you in on a secret- almost all successful sex workers are practicing witches. It doesn't really matter whether or not YOU believe in it, because it will work on you just the same. Does sex work attract witches, or are sex workers drawn to witchcraft? Does it really matter? We'll find ways to wrap you around our little fingers....

You might be wondering *how* it works? Well, that's MY secret, but I'll tell you this much: feeding on the energy of worship, adoration, and tributes (because yes, money is a physical embodiment of energy) has made me into the successful and powerful Goddess I am. I guess you could say I'm a little bit of a succubus, or psychic vampire. I enjoy draining men and making them fall madly in love with me. I don't see any harm in that, especially when my men beg me to place love and mind control spells on them...You can't help but love a willing victim!  

Does the idea of being the helpless slave of a real witch get you rock hard? Stop fantasizing, and give me a call....I will make this fantasy a reality. 

Why fight the urge?

The Art of being a VIP Client

As a veteran phone courtesan, I have talked to hundreds (if not thousands!) of people over the years. And yes, while this is my career, I do care about my clients, and there are particular individuals whose calls I especially look forward to. The bottom line is if you are a good client, you will have a better overall experience on your calls, and with forming intimate connections with your favorite flirt(s). I decided to write up a little guide to give you some insight to what it takes to be the sort of unforgettable client I love!

1. Don't ask for discounts, or haggle- ever.
I have blocked people over this type of behavior. It is rude and disrespectful. The worst are the guys who say "I know a girl who will do the same thing for half your rate"- great, please call her instead. Free minutes, etc. must be offered by the flirt herself, because she likes you. She is the one who decides if you get a hookup- not you. I am the most generous with clients who are generous with me. There is nothing less sexy than a broke beggar. Good phone sex is a luxury worth saving for. 

2. Allow enough time for the call.
Especially if it's your first time calling, or you want something time consuming such as hypnosis. Set aside a minimum of 20 minutes for your call, longer if you want a deep hypno session. Add enough money to your account so that the call is not interrupted every five minutes with a one minute warning.  It is frustrating to have someone edge themselves, call, and expect me to get them off in three minutes so they can hang up. 

3. Know what YOU want.
When you call me, I want to make you happy and give you a wonderful experience, whether you are seeking a mind blowing orgasm, some pleasurable relaxation, or just some friendly conversation. But although I am highly intuitive, I am not a mind reader. 

It's always a good idea to go into a call for some sense of what you want. It's not enough information to know that you are submissive, or "want a woman to tell you what to do." Give me specific details. Is your fantasy about being spanked? Cuckolded? What do you envision me wearing? What do you envision YOU wearing? Check out my list of favorite fantasies if you need some inspiration. These little details are tremendously helpful in helping us create the experience you desire. There is no need to be shy about what it is you really want. No matter how weird you think it is, I can guarantee I've probably heard weirder. If anything your fantasy may be way more common than you realize. 

It's also a good idea to spend the time to find a flirt who really meets your needs. If you call a submissive flirt because you like her photo, but you wish to be dominated, you'll be both be disappointed. If you're not certain if a flirt will be interested in your particular fantasy,  you can always send a message to check in before calling. However, it is a good idea to send a tribute if the message is particularly long, or if you desire a prolonged correspondence, to demonstrate that you value her time. Many of us receive dozens of message each day, and may or may not have time to read multiple messages if we are busy with calls. A tribute helps you stand out from the rest.

4. Respect boundaries and keep realistic expectations. 
It can be easy to forget that you are paying for a sexual fantasy if you feel a deep connection and "fall" for a flirt. After all, a charming, sexy, and likable personality is a requirement for this job! I genuinely enjoy the company of my clients and am usually pretty open and honest about what type of person I am. However, I do have a personal life that I keep separate from my work, and I strongly feel that this clearly defined boundary is part of why I am successful. 

Begging a flirt to meet you in person, say "I love you," or date you is unfair and inappropriate. If a girlfriend is what you are looking for, you'll be much better off signing up with an online dating service. A flirt cannot replace your desire for an in-person relationship, and it is unrealistic to expect us to meet that need for you. 

5. Be respectful. 
My idea of a perfect call goes something like this: the client introduces themselves, we get to know each other a little bit (or we catch up if we've spoken before), we explore an erotic fantasy together with plenty of time to build tension towards an explosive climax, we wrap up the call, and the client leaves me (hopefully positive) feedback and a tribute (it doesn't have to be a huge one, it's the thought that counts!) 

The calls I dread: client is pushy, abrupt, won't tell me their name, won't tell me what they want, behaves in a rude fashion, hangs up after a few minutes. These guys leave me frustrated, feeling as though my time has been wasted. I truly wonder why these men don't just masturbate to a free porn website! 

I'm also not a fan of callers who use racial slurs against me (without first establishing whether or not I am okay with raceplay), who push to discuss topics that are off-limits within Niteflirt's TOS, and who are otherwise insulting, degrading, or mean. These guys get blocked. 

In a nutshell? Be respectful, be realistic, be generous, and be yourself. This is the quickest way to form a great connection with a flirt who can truly give you what you need- and who will look forward to chatting with you every time.  Maybe I can be the one for you. <3

XOXO

Goddess Eriko

My Favorite Fantasies: Hypnosis

I was on Niteflirt for several years before I began exploring hypnosis. Clients frequently requested it, but I had never studied any methods, so I didn't feel confident to try it.

At this point, hypnosis may be one of my favorite activities to explore with clients, and I have received a great deal of positive feedback regarding my technique.

I learned hypnosis by developing my own technique, one that I believe is more effective than traditional methods that are often outdated and so cliched that they often make it harder to make the subject into trance. I developed my style based on my experience as a meditator and practicioner of Tantra and Yoga. I know how to induce a trance state in myself very well, and I applied this same method to my subjects, and it works wonderfully. I also enter a trance state of my own while giving hypnosis, and find it to be very relaxing.

Since I have begun, I have read some books on the subject as well as consulting with experts. However I am glad I begun with my own instincts rather than using another person's method. More than anything, interpersonal chemistry and genuine connection is what matters the most.

I believe hypnosis is one of the most effective ways to deepen a sense of surrender in my submissive clients, as well as a wonderful tool for entering pure intimate, erotic bliss. 

Want a taste of my silky, hypnotic voice? Give me a call.